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I came to this web site after having my second miscarriage last night. I am almost 43 and have had two successful pregnancies in between my miscarriages. At 42 this was a surprise pregnancy so I did not feel the devastation that I did during my first miscarriage, but still feel sad. My heart goes out to all of you who lost your pregnancies. When I gave birth to my first daughter I remember my husband and I looking at her and thinking, "This is her!!! This is the right one!" I will always wonder about my other two "babies" why they did not happen, etc. I wish you all much luck having the babies you wish to have, it can happen. Good Luck. Julie42 on August 17, 2008

Hi Chrystal, I hope you're doing okay. I'm almost done miscarrying my first. I guess I was luckier because I didn't have as many weeks to get my hopes up and I really wish you peace and a lot of support from loved ones. That is what has helped me so much. You're all in my thoughts. Amy on August 17, 2008

Hi Everyone! I went to the doctor today in hopes of finding out if I was having a boy or a girl, I am sixteen weeks, during my ultrasound the technician couldn't find a heart beat, come to find out the baby had stopped growing a few weeks ago, I have had some minor spotting but I was assured that the baby was fine, at least it was fine last month at my check up. This is my first pregnancy and I am completely devastated. We had been trying to conceive on our own for about three years, and we were thrilled when we found out we were expecting. I have PCOS and diabetes so that hasn't helped anything. I have to have a D & C, the doctor is letting me wait for a few days because this has been such a shock to us all. I will say a prayer for everyone that has posted on here, I know your pain. My husband and I were so excited we had already bought all the stuff for our nursery and now I have to look at it every time I walk through my house. I could never imagined the pain it is to lose a little one. God Bless You all! Chrystal on August 15, 2008

I went to my first ultrasound of my first pregnancy 2 days ago. When they told me there was no heart beat and that the embryo was the size of a 6 weeker instead of an 8 weeker I was shocked and angry. Even though I hadn't yet felt pregnant, no morning sickness, no little belly pooch, it was hard to believe the news at first. Tomorrow I go in to do one last check although it's more than 99% certain that it's a demise. I have 3 options to take care of business and I'm planning to go with Cytotec. That gets the job done quickly and I think it would be too traumatic to bleed for up to 2 weeks, knowing that the bleeding is what would have been my baby. I'm scared now reading how many people on here have had 2 miscarriages. That worries me a lot and I hope that I am luckier the second time around. But right now all I can think about is this one and how there were so many unique things about this pregnancy and it's being stripped away from me. It seems like I'm a little sadder every day. I hope it gets easier soon. Amy on August 13, 2008

I am still in the process of having my second miscarriage. My husband and I found out we were pregnant in March 2008 and miscarried at 6w1d on March 29th. I was devastated and we decided to try again as soon as we could. We waited a few cycles and found out we were pregnant again in mid-July. This time around I was terrified and an experience that should be exciting was filled with such dread. I knew something was wrong when I started spotting two weeks ago. I tried to be positive and believe that I would not have two miscarriages in a row...when I started bleeding, I was positive I was losing another baby. An ultrasound confirmed that I miscarried at 6w5d. The worst part is having a new person growing inside you, and waking up one morning knowing you are now empty. I was so naive to think that when we were ready to have children (we are now 29 yrs old), you just go off birth control and have a couple kids. Obviously it does not work that way and those that have had healthy pregnancies and beautiful children do not realize how lucky and blessed they are. I am going to lose it the next time a person says to me "So, when are you going to have children?"...I feel robbed and will not be able to fully enjoy a pregnancy, already having two losses 5 months apart. We have been trying now for over a year and have to wait until November to try again. This is all consuming and devastating, and the only thing that gets me though this time is the support of my husband. I read all of the experiences of other women and feel a little less alone. Hopefully we will all have earth babies soon. Anita on August 13, 2008

Hello to all… I posted on here in Jan. I had a miscarriage on Jan 19th at about 6 wks along. It was the most difficult time of my life… I came on this board every day reading other womens stories and crying both for myself and all of you… I found out at the end of Feb. that I was pregnant again. I was TERRIFIED at first. I stopped coming on here to read, not because I could no longer relate but out of superstition I guess. I feared it would be bad for the new pregnancy. I worked hard at not becoming too attached to the second baby, I was so afraid for a second miscarriage. As I passed the 6 week mark though, and than the 7th, 8th, 9th, 10th… Hope began to soar inside me. My husband too. We let go, let ourselves get excited and hopeful… I went for a routine ultrasound at the end of April and was told the baby was only 7 wks in size and had no heartbeat. I was supposed to be 11 and a half weeks pregnant. I couldn’t believe it was happening to us again… but the pain didn’t hit me the same way. I just felt completely numb. Like, almost dead. I had expected it to happen again on some level… I didn’t even post on here after the second loss. I felt too tired to talk about my feelings. I internalized the second time, whereas the first time I reached out a lot, desperate for someone to comfort me… Anyways, exactly 4 weeks from today would have been my first baby’s due date – Sept.9th. And the second was due Nov. 21st. I have made a lot of progress in recovering… I think I kind of blocked it and just really needed to get on with things, you know? Too much sadness for far too long. I was exhausted of it. And I have truly been ok for the most part… My sister in law delivered her second son on May 9th, just under 2 wks after my 2nd miscarriage so I as kind of forced in a way to move forward. It was hard in many ways, believe me. But she let me be there for the birth and experience it with her and it was miraculous. Every one was shocked that I could do it, but in a way it helped heal me. And to have my brothers new baby in my arms put faith back in my heart, you know? (I have since also been given the great honour of being named his Godmother too which is wonderful…) I planted forget me nots in my garden this year in honour of my babies… And I’ve decided to get a tattoo to memorialize them. And I’ve had a good summer, focused on positive things and being happy… Now as the first due date nears though I feel like I’m falling apart all over again. I have feelings of desperation and immense, overwhelming sadness. We had decided to start trying again next month and I was excited for this. Now I just feel terrified. And so sad. And noone understands it really… I am scared as to how I will actually survive the 9th of Sept. And again later on, the 21st of Nov. My heart races even now… Thank you for allowing me to share my feelings… Tracylee on August 12, 2008

Hi, we are going to try this month for the third time for a baby. I miscarried twice both at 8 weeks, first one happened naturally but the second one only detected on early scan at 10 weeks and required D&C. I have had a few months off now, and am panicking about the third not sure i am strong enough if it happens again, but what can you do.. If this one does not work out then at least they can do tests on me. Somehting which should be so exciting is filling me with apprehnsion and dread. Gail on August 10, 2008

Peggy, I know exactly how u feel, after both of my miscarriages I couldn't even look at a baby let alone give a baby shower!! Look within yourself for strength and while its hard and u will miss your baby don't let your sisters joy become your misery!! trust in your faith and don't give up hope that u will be in her shoes soon!! I just had a d and c with twins last week I was 10wks pregnant give your body time to heal but most importantly your soul!! are babies are safe in gods arms and while I wish for nothing more for them to be in mine this knowledge gives me some comfort!! I am so sorry for your loss u r in my prayers! katie on August 9, 2008

Hi I went to the dr monday for an u/s and they did one in the office but couldn't get a good enough one so they sent me to the hospital to have one done and I went back to the dr office where they told me that my baby's heart had stopped beating at 9 weeks and I was 11 weeks 3 days so she told me she needed to set up a D & C for the next day this was my first pregnancy and I was so excited me and my SIL were pregnant together she's 28 weeks though and I'm supposed to be giving her a baby shower in a few weeks How am I going to do that when everytime I think about a baby I start crying My husband wants to wait a while before ttc again but I think I want to try again in October or November if my dr says its alright my thoughts and prayers are with everyone going through the same thing Peggy on August 8, 2008

I just had my 2nd miscarriage now- on July 2nd (8 weeks). I had my first Jan. 07 (12 weeks) and it truly is one of the hardest things I have ever gone thru. I have a balanced chromosome translocation- so the chances of me conceiving a healthy baby is only about 40% (better than 0%) I have to say that I have become numb to the special feeling of being pregnant- I think I have done this to hardern myself from the pain. I was not excited this past time at all. I knew from the begining that something was wrong and that it would not work- and from all the ultrasounds I could tell the embryo was not developing properly- but b/c they kept seeing a heartbeat they kept trying to reassure me all was a go. I went in on a Friday for check up (good, strong heartbeat) and that Sunday began bleeding and had the D&C on Wed. I am so thankful to have all of you out there that can understand. We will try again next month hopefully- I am still waiting for my period to return. Thanks and love and luck to you all. kat on August 8, 2008

I began spotting last Monday and it progressed to bleeding by Wednesday. Thursday, 7-31 I lost the babies at 2:10 in the afternoon. I was 11 weeks, 5 days pregnant. Yes, it was twins and they were about 8 weeks developed. They were in the same sac, so they were identicle twins. One of them was fully intact. The other one, well, I could make out the head and the eyes, but the rest of it's body was pretty much just tissue. It obviously had a chromosomal disorder which caused the miscarriage. They were too young yet to tell if they were boys or girls. I've had the support of a few of my girlfriends who have gone through this and my husband, Roby. I did some research on the internet which has really educated me. So I feel somewhat at rest with this ordeal. I've put my babies in a special little care package which I will bury along with a note that I've written them. The note reads: To My Dear Sweet Babies, From the moment that I felt you, I knew that you were two. I've always wanted twins and you were mine. Though I will never get to know you, you both will always be in my heart & soul. I will see you in heaven when it's my turn. Until then, know how very much I love you! Love Always And Forever, Mommy XOXOXOXOX XOXOXOXOX Rest in Peace My Angels! Tanya D. 36, mother of 1 year old and wife in love on August 6, 2008

Hi everyone. I had posted earlier that I had 2 miscarriages-the first in April at 13 weeks and the second in June at 6 weeks. It's been very difficult to say the least. I thought I would update all of you on what's happened since. I bled for 3 weeks after my natural miscarriage. The day I stopped, I had my period exactly 21 days later. It was abnormal. Only 2 days of heavy bleeding and that was it. Then after that, I ovulated just 8 days later. This is not normal for me. I usually have a 28-30 day cycle. Ovulating 10-14 days later. I thought I would share my experience with all of you out there wondering what to expect after a miscarriage. So I guess things will be out of whack until our bodies get back on track from all of this. I'm ovulating right now, but being careful NOT to get pregnant. My doctor was very serious about us waiting 3 cycles before trying again. To all of you trying to move on from your losses, I want to share something with you. I have two children, 6 and 3. I am very blessed to have them. I was crying all the time each day and suddenly one morning I saw myself in the mirror . I wiped my tears away and decided to move on and be strong. Don't get me wrong, there are days that I see someone pregnant or a newborn and cry it out. The pain of the losses will never leave me, but it has made me stronger. My heart goes out to all of you. I hope this post has helped any of you what to expect after a miscarriage. I realize each person is different, but I thought it would help. Lots of hugs to all of you! TraceyAnn on August 6, 2008

Thank you for this website. It is the only thing that doesn't make me feel completely alone. I lost my first child 4 weeks ago. I was only 6 weeks pregnant but I was so in love with that peanut. My sister in law is pregant with twins- completely an unplanned accident. It makes me crazy. My husband thinks I should be "over it" by now. But I'm still so sad and have so much trouble even leaving the house. I should have got my period today, but it hasn't shown up yet. I know I ovulated as I charted and used the fertility monitor. Stephanie on August 2, 2008

Thank you for this site. I found out today that I am miscarrying again. I have one wonderful little boy and a beautiful little girl- I have had two miscarriages and now this makes the third all together. I am very sad and heartbroken but I do feel hope and know that God does love me and is watching over me and my family. We will try again and pray that we are able to have just one more child. God bless all of the women who have suffered with this affliction- may you have hope and peace in your hearts. Cindi on July 31, 2008

Hello everyone. I had a D & C after a missed miscarriage on friday the 13th of June. I was 13 weeks pregnant. My husband and I named the baby "Our Christmas Baby" because he or she was due on December 15th. God bless everyone who is mourning. I feel so much pain, but I have hope as well. Maggie on July 31, 2008

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