Everything you are feeling is very understandable but do try not to feel humiliated. You have done nothing to warrant feelings of embarassment. All you did was find out you were pregnant and then be happy and excited...the thing EVERY woman does when she wants to have a baby, even an unplanned one. Even though what you may be feeling is common, it doesn't do any good to pile some more hurt on yourself with what you face.

Even though nothing is confirmed yet, whether this is a chemical pregnancy or not, it certainly could be. Try to be seen by a doctor, even if it isn't yours since he's away, or if you have the ability to go to an ER, just to get some answers. They can do some tests to find out whether a pregnancy is viable, and if the tiny fetus is still there. How far along were you supposed to be, or how late was your period? And what propted you to try another test? Do you not feel very pregnant, or not having any symptoms yet?

Be honest with your partner, tell him what you are experiencing, and what answers you can get from the docs. Try to involve him, because he may feel similar feelings as you, and you can be a comfort to each other. However, men and women can be very different when it comes to things like this, so be prepared for him to not feel the same at all. Especially outwardly, because men tend to feel they need to be strong in an emotional tearing situation...they let the woman do the crying on the outside even if they feel torn inside as well.

I'd be honest with your family too, when you feel the time is right, and after you get some answers. Then try to remember that just because this pregnancy ended so early (if it indeed has) doesn't make it any less painful. Allow yourself the time and the opportunity to grieve, and let those around you know that you are feeling this way, so they can be given the chance to be understanding. A lot of people don't know how to react to a miscarriage, and know so very little about it, that they end up being insensitive. But the best thing is to give yourself some time to feel the grief. There will be hope for the future, however, and always keep that hope alive.

I'm sorry you have to go through this...ever since my miscarriage, I wish there was a way to prevent anyone from having to go through it. Good luck with everything, and my thoughts are with you.